Tom Wahlrab, a fellow and board member of the ISCT,  and the former director of the Dayton Mediation Center, has lived his life according to relational values.  For the past 30-some years, he has focused his efforts on supporting transformation of the interactions among the people of Dayton, Ohio.  This is part 3 of 3 […]

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Tom Wahlrab, a fellow and board member of the ISCT, and the former director of the Dayton Mediation Center, has lived his life according to relational values.  For the past 30-some years, he has focused his efforts on supporting transformation of the interactions among the people of Dayton, Ohio.  This is part 2 of 3 […]

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Tom Wahlrab, a fellow and board member of the ISCT,  and the former director of the Dayton Mediation Center, has lived his life according to relational values.  For the past 30-some years, he has focused his efforts on supporting transformation of the interactions among the people of Dayton, Ohio.  The next 3 posts contain the […]

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When discussing different forms of conflict intervention, the various processes are sometimes listed in order of increasing party control.  Here is a typical way of listing the best-known interventions: adjudication binding arbitration non-binding arbitration med-arb arb-med evaluative mediation facilitative mediation negotiation Often adjudication, that is, a judge making a decision, is listed as the approach […]

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It’s entirely understandable that retired judges and experienced litigators would want to work as mediators. In their work, they’ve seen how expensive, exhausting and frustrating lawsuits were for litigants. When they’ve finished serving as judges or litigators, they are motivated to do something for litigants that feels more helpful. Unfortunately, their experience makes them especially […]

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In the heat of conflict, we experience diminished access to our sense of inner strength and our awareness of our connection to others.  At these times, we behave destructively, in ways that harm ourselves and those we’re in conflict with.  At our worst moments, we have the urge to lash out at the other side, […]

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Transformative theory describes the phenomenon of conflict escalation (aka interactional degeneration). It acknowledges people’s propensity to fall into a vicious cycle of feeling threatened, losing compassion for each other, and then behaving in ways that perpetuate or worsen those experiences. In that vicious cycle, we behave in ways that are either too aggressive or too […]

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